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For this week’s Because I Said So, MommaDJane and I are going to discuss: Have you heard this in your household yet? “Please Dad? EVERYONE else is wearing them!” I haven’t yet, but it’s likely I will someday fairly soon, and it might be helpful to have a pre-thought-out stance when it comes to my daughter’s ‘style’.
The Rules
I have written a rule about what my daughter can wear. If you don’t feel like clicking through the rule is no writing on the butt and clothes must be longer than your finger tips. The reason for “no writing on the butt” because guys are reading that. Call me old fashion but I don’t want some dude reading my daughter’s butt. Also those PINK sweatpants make guys wonder what else they bought at Victoria Secret. I think the fingertip part is pretty much self explanatory.
Expanding it a little further
With Rules For My Daughter, is I keep them quick and quirky. I don’t really expand on the rules. I said only two exceptions to what she could wear but that is not 100% correct. I will not have my daughter looking like a whore. I know all about girls leaving the house in one outfit and changing into a unapproved look. I hope I can instill better values into my daughter.
Stone Wash Jeans for a 9 Year Old?
I work in retail. I see the styles on the racks for little girls these days. Some of them shock me. I see these styles with mid drifts showing and booty shorts. There are other lines that are so cute it hurts. The Liberty of London at Target (disclosure: I work for Target) is a line that has cute skirts with floral prints. I would 100% let my daughter wear Liberty of London. If she wanted to wear jeans that look painted on then that would not fly.
I am going to have to little to no control over what she wears but for now I can control it. There is no reason for my little girl to look like an adult. I love when my little girl looks like a fashionista but there is a difference between whore and fashion forward.
But everyone else is wearing it
I know that this is one of those phrases your parents said and you cringe when it comes out of your mouth but I have no problem saying, “If all your friends drive off a bridge does that mean you will?”
What are your thoughts on this topic? Do you take great pride that you have the most fashionable kid on the block (C’mon tell the truth)?
Let’s head over to MommaDJane to see if she is going to let her kids be the fashionistas? Have a topic or question you would like to hear our views on? Have you always wanted to hear both sides of a topic or answers to a question, unbiased? You can submit topics or questions via comments or even anonymously to buckrogers79@gmail.com. We will pick questions at random and blog on one topic per week.
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I have 4 daughters, ages 13 – 2. I am pretty strict with what they can and can’t wear. I see to many dad’s who don’t even say anything in regards to what their daughters are wearing and just let them head out of the house dressed in very revealing clothing. While I am not a prude and don’t want my daughters to turn into prudish women, I do believe in being modest in your appearance as well as know from a guys perspective just what goes through our mind and is on our mind most of the time and don’t want my daughters to be an object of lust from boys.
My oldest daughter is in middles school and learned a lesson this year about wearing a certain types of tops. The boys wouldn’t stop staring at her chest. I explained to her that no matter what they wear at this age, the boys are trying to see what they can see and it won’t stop for a long time.
My daughters have similar rules as what you described. I want them to be proud of who they are for their inner beauty as well as their mind. My daughters are not ugly by an means, but I want them to know that their true beauty comes from within and they don’t need all the makeup and clothes to fit in just to be pretty. I make it a practice to tell my daughters how beautiful and smart they are all the time.
Hopefully as they mature they will see the wisdom in what I have told them, but as for now, they are not leaving my house looking like skanky ho’s.
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I have a daughter age 11. I totally agree. I will not let her out of the house looking like some skanky ho. I made a lot of her clothes up until she was about 6 and said “Mommy I dont want to wear that anymore.” The first time I bought her an Easter dress at a store, I cried. She said, “Its ok, Mommy.”
I wont allow any words on her butt, either. If she cant wear it at school, we dont buy it, period. She is very picky so I dont buy much without her being with me. So if she tries something on and approves it and I dont dissaprove, its a go.
Our latest argument involves makeup. I will let her wear a little (lipgloss maybe some mascara) which is way more than I did when I was in 6th grade. I hate that 6th grade is middle school instead of elementary. They are thrown in with the 7th and 8th grade at such an impressionable time. If they were big kids on campus as part of elementary school I dont think I’d have as much problem as I do.
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